In Steinberg's book "The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting", he says Never use physical punishment! When it becomes necessary to punish a child, there are much better alternatives to physical punishment. This includes hitting, spanking, slapping and anything else.
I grew up with spankings and "the wooden spoon"...sometimes flicks on the mouth or slaps. I hated this! I never want to put my children through those feelings of fear and hurt.
Alternatives?
-Working with rather than doing to.
-Just talk to them instead!
-If necessary use a firm tone. "reproving in times with sharpness, and showing an increase of love afterwards" D&C 121:43
It might be really tough sometimes but remember! Never punish in anger! Take time to calm down and you will be a lot more rational and loving as you address the problem. An example i have heard from some mothers is the "time out" time. When both parent and child are upset, explain to the child that you both need a time out to cool down and then talk after.
Source: Steinberg
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